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Natural Empathy: Who Do We Really Feel It For?

 Two people made mistakes. Both are regretting their decisions. For one person, I feel deep empathy. I want her to relax and focus on the present. I feel for her. I’m not angry with her. I want to be there for her — almost like fixing something I didn’t even break. For the other person, who also made a bad decision, I feel the total opposite. Every time she brings up the topic, I remind her again and again: “I told you not to do it. You knew the consequences. Now you got what you deserve. Just make a decision that helps.” My approach with her is practical, harsh, and sometimes arrogant. I don’t understand why I feel so differently toward two people who made similar mistakes. Let’s call the person I feel empathetic toward Person A, and the other Person B. In the case of Person B, I had clearly told her the consequences. I had warned her. With Person A, it never even crossed my mind to warn her. Could this be one of the reasons? With Person B, I had already put in my effort. I was fu...
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Built From Their Disrespect

 Yesterday, I had a conversation with three men — one was a watchman, one a doctor, and one was well educated. No matter what their status was, all of them shared the same audacity to look down on women simply because they are women. It wasn’t about appearance or background — it was about gender. The assumption was clear: a woman’s words, opinions, and existence itself are treated as if they hold less value. That’s when I truly realized something painful — when a woman wants to live independently, she is still not fully allowed to. Men grow up in a society that hands them entitlement, teaching them that they have the right to dismiss, interrupt, and belittle women without consequence. Alhamdulillah, women are blessed with empathy, emotional intelligence, and humility — yet many men are never taught to develop these qualities. Only those who truly fear God carry real respect, self-control, and compassion. I pray that every girl finds a man who is beautiful in character — a man full ...
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Grateful for the Pause: Growth, Laziness, and Moving Forward

 From Comfort to Commitment: Lessons from My Gap Years During these gap years, I’ve had a lot of self-realizations—things I wasn’t able to understand in the first 25 years of my life. I learned how to approach life and what truly matters in it. Take a pause! Are you living a life designed and fixed by society!? Or you do have a realization of reality ? Purpose of your own life? True happiness what you want?  Or your mind is fixed that true happiness is to achieve what society has already fixed for you and everyone  What the world defines as success isn’t necessarily what has to be success for you as well. I became more spiritually connected to Allah. Earlier, I never even had the time to think about these things because I was always busy with studies. During these gap years, I reflected, understood myself better, and now I can see options to improve my life going forward. If I had continued running in the race of studies during these gap years, I might never have gained t...
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Mindset: The Real Wealth

 From what I’ve seen in my experience, many people who are wealthy are actually working hard to be where they are today. Yes, we do come across some spoiled rich kids and some people who make money by deceiving others. But there are also many rich people who genuinely work hard, plan ahead for the future, and build proper savings. On the other hand, I’ve also seen poor people who don’t put in the effort and rely on excuses like “I don’t have money or support to reach that level.” They keep complaining about being born poor, having no support, and not getting opportunities. But in reality, they are sabotaging themselves — not because they are lazy, but because their mindset is fixed. They don’t move forward because these limiting thoughts were instilled in them from childhood. They don’t even know there’s another way to live. Poor people need to take even the smallest step forward. But I’ve seen that many don’t even make the minimal effort their peers make to improve their situation...
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New Beginning Starts With Self-awareness

  I realized that the part from The Mountain Is You about self-sabotage coming from unconscious negative thinking is actually true — I’ve experienced it myself. Honestly, at every turning point in my life, I did this. And I believe everyone does this to some extent. It’s about the fact that we ruin or stop ourselves from moving forward because something negative or terrifying is associated with it — whether it’s a memory, a person we dislike, or even just a comment that creates an illusion in our mind. In my case, the things I sabotage daily are related to my creativity. I have ideas and a creative mind, I want to do something unique, something no one has done before, and become known and appreciated for it. But I don’t take action because it’s new, and I’m scared I’ll become a laughing topic. Sometimes I get demotivated or too lazy to improve my skills. My mind always wants support from someone else to achieve something that is supposed to be my goal. I’ve become so dependent that...
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💚

 I woke up in a pretty good mood today, though still too lazy to start my day properly, so I’d say my energy levels were somewhere in the middle. After finishing my job, I took a bath and had breakfast. My cat was sitting by the window, staring outside, so I sat behind her and watched the leaves swaying on the trees. I kept thinking about what my therapist told me yesterday—to spend more time in nature because it helps calm the mind. At first, I felt like, How can nature elevate my mood? It’s all just blandishment. But after a few minutes of quietly watching the leaves, I actually started to feel calm. Then my elder sister interrupted me, asking me to cook. I was about to, but she didn’t want what I planned to make. I ended up shouting my way out of the situation and cooked what she wanted. I was annoyed, but thankfully it didn’t turn into a fight. While cutting the green vegetables, I noticed they made me feel calm too. Maybe there really is something about the color green that so...
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Chaotic Whispers

 Am I actually depressed? Or is the psychologist playing with my mind? Yes, I agree that I’m having trouble dealing with my emotions. I get triggered easily, I cry, I overthink so much that my mind becomes overloaded, and only then does it calm down. I can’t focus on life, I can’t concentrate on things. But maybe all of this is just a phase in life, right? What if it’s normal? Am I sabotaging myself? Or am I using this “depression” to cover up my laziness—hiding behind it so that I can stay in my comfort zone without being judged? Even when I used to have chronic pains, I would still get up and study so I could raise my standards. But now everything has just shut down. What does this actually mean? I thought self-talk would solve my problems. I can see my flaws and my good qualities, but I still can’t help myself overcome whatever is happening that makes me this sad, unmotivated person. I can’t step out of my comfort zone. I know I can’t stay in this zone forever. But I wish that i...
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